Experienced Violence
This page of the IHH website is provided for men and their allies. IHH recognises that male as a definition includes cisgender, transgender and non-binary identities.
IHH recognises that male as a definition includes cisgender, transgender and non-binary identities.
IHH recognises that male victims are not a homogenous group. We have provided advice and links to services with a view to supporting all Oxford University student male survivors, regardless of socioeconomic group, sexual orientation, religious belief, gender of the perpetrator, and how recent the incident.
Any individual’s experience of and reaction to sexual violence will be nuanced in different ways by their identity and this is no less the case for male-identifying people. This page of the website has been designed to correspond to the unquestionable gender differences regarding how men experience sexual violence.
Immediate Support
See this page of the IHH Oxford website for other Emergency Support Options.
Some Things to Keep in Mind
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Experiences are Gender-Specific
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All Reactions are Valid
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Male Victims Exhibit the Same Distress
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Gender Norms can be Challenging
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Always Seek Help if you Need it
Experiences are Gender-Specific
In line with the paragraphs above, research suggests important gender differences regarding how men experience the trauma of sexual violence, how they access services and respond to interventions. If you feel that your reaction has been influenced specifically by your gender identity and your masculinity, this makes complete sense.
All Reactions are Valid
All reactions to a sexual violence experience are valid. There is no ‘normal’ way to respond to an experience of sexual violence, and it’s important to recognise that you will not be alone in whatever it is you’re feeling. Whether you find yourself experiencing disempowerment, confusion, behavioural changes, anxiety, changes to the way you relate to your masculinity and sexuality or something else, everything is valid.
Male Victims Exhibit the Same Distress
In the period after your experience, it may be that you’ve run into certain received ideas about how men experience sexual violence. These myths are often rooted in societal gender norms and faulty assumptions, rather than actual evidence. For instance, one faulty assumption is that men would and should experience less psychological distress after a sexual violence incident than women. Research suggests that male victims exhibit the same level of psychological distress as female victims, and indeed that the highest levels of PTSD are reported by male victims of same-sex sexual violence.
Gender Norms can be Challenging
The societally constructed gender straitjacket that requires men to be dominant, heterosexual, tough, non-vulnerable and always desiring sex / female attention can make it challenging to identify yourself as a survivor, since this recognition would not fit the gender mould. You may have found that you downplay your experience to yourself and/or others and feel prevented from discussing it openly. This reaction is completely understandable, as much as it is a good idea to avoid downplaying and bottling up.
Always Seek Help if you Need it
It goes without saying that you are so much more than what this stupid set of gender norms expects you to be, and that there is no shame or weakness in addressing what has happened, and accessing any of the resources available, both in and out of Oxford. In line with our intersectional approach, IHH recognises the unique struggles faced by male survivors and hopes some of the services linked below may be useful to you.